As a teenager, I will admit
that I judge many things and as you have probably guessed from the majority of
my articles and videos, I am rather opinionated. I am not out to offend or upset- that is my
last intention. At this age, I am not as
blunt as an elderly person when passing an opinion (who is?), but I do like to
share my thoughts about everything with the world. However, imagine many teenagers doing
so. Imagine everyone having an opinion
about everything, judging just one aspect of something and using that judgement
to justify having a negative opinion.
This is what I like to call, the vicious circle of teenage judgement.
Teenagers judge
everything- that is what we do. The sad
truth is that we will instantly make up our mind about something, and for the
majority of the time, stand firm with our views even when we ourselves might
know that they are wrong. Take parties
for example, if you don’t drink alcohol you are deemed as ‘boring,’ but if you drink
a bit too much then you are branded as ‘attention seeking’ and ‘pathetic.’ I myself don’t really see the hype about
drinking alcohol at my age, but know that people will consider me ‘boring’ and
a ‘killjoy’ for saying so. I am not
insulting others who may like a drink; I just don’t like the idea of being at
an amazing party and waking up with a hangover and no memory of the previous
night. I don’t mind saying this here,
but I know that if I said it at school I would receive many ‘Wow, you loser’
looks, as well as witnessing people whispering in the shock of my sweeping
statement.
Teenage girls are constantly
being thrown in the vicious circle more and more. If you aren’t being judged on your appearance,
then it is your interests, your personality, your educational ability- the list
is endless. Whilst girls are naturally
vicious- let’s not lie, we know we are- I don’t think it is fair that they
mainly judge others by their appearance.
I’ve heard the bitchy comments about clothes I have worn in the past,
clothes that I felt confident and happy in.
Don’t get out your tissues yet guys, because I must confess that I am
one of the many guilty people that have ‘slagged off’ someone’s outfit behind
their back. I am not proud of it as I
know what it is like to be on the receiving end of the commentary. However, what I hate the most is when girls
judge others on how they look. ‘The one
with....’ ‘fat legs’ ‘a big nose’ and ‘wonky teeth’ are just a few examples of
the phrases that girls and guys can use to distinguish one another, phrases
that are demeaning and actually quite cruel.
It is one thing criticising an outfit, but the last thing anyone wants
to hear is that they aren’t the right size for everyone- that is just
unacceptable.
Celebrities in their
teenage years often experience a lot of hate from the public. This could be due to how annoyingly talented
they are...... or how simply annoying they are.
In the case of pop stars like Rebecca Black and Cher Lloyd, whatever it
was that teenagers disliked fuelled them to send hateful messages to them and
even death threats. I do admit that I
like neither artists music, however I don’t agree with the level of abuse that
they received and don’t think that they did anything to deserve hate mail and death
threats. A certain thirty something year
old woman who had a short romance with a certain member of One Direction
received a lot of flack (sorry, had to put the pun in somewhere) over Twitter
and was sent a string of abuse by teenage girls. It is important to remember that the majority
of the so called fans would have never met any of One Direction and without
knowing them properly, have no right to dictate who they should and shouldn’t
be going out with.
Although it is
primarily their own peer group that teenagers judge, adults do too experience
the wrath of the vicious circle. One of
my pet hates is when people try to outsmart others in a position of authority,
so I go livid when people at school treat the teachers like they are nothing
and act as though they can teach the lessons themselves. It is quite obvious that pupils can’t teach themselves;
hence them being the ones sitting at the tables listening to the teachers do their
job and teach them. I struggle to not
let out a slight bit of laughter when the pupil is convinced they are the new
Einstein and are better than the teacher and then the teacher proves them wrong
and demonstrates that the know it all doesn’t actually know that much.
I am not perfect. I say I hate judgemental people and I am kind
of judgemental myself. I get annoyed
when I see chavs being chavs and I sigh when I read about insane Justin Beiber
fans climbing over his car in the hope that they will meet him. As a human being I will continue to have
opinions and views all throughout my life- that’s natural. Nevertheless, I want people to stop being so
bitter and horrible in their judgements.
It would be lovely to hear talk about other people’s attributes that
others like, rather than the fact that they might be a bit overweight or have a
style that others don’t like. Then we
plummet back to reality, remembering that to get everyone to change would be an
impossible task, but getting a few people thinking ‘I want to be a nicer person’
would make me feel like I’d done my good deed for the day.
Your eyes meet again, this time the lion looking at
you as an equal predator, seeing you for what you are, accepting it and then
leaving you in peace. Within a second,
it is gone, like the encounter never happened.